One component in your HAPPINESS is relationships. It is so easy to see faults in others, but why do we do it?
1) Sometimes we run from or cowardly hide from their problems by working on the problems of others, “You should… such and such!”
2) Or sometimes, we don’t feel loved, so we shout it out, a cry for help, believing that if we can get others to also feel the pain, we can get their attention and their sympathies and their love.
3) Sometimes we love our friends and in an effort to increase their happiness, we encourage them to grow. Yet our encouragements turn to criticisms because it takes less effort to criticism than encourage. Because we are afraid. Afraid that they won’t heed our suggestions.
4) Sometimes we need some control in our world. Some level of certainty. We want to change and mold people to be what we need them to be.
Yet, in the end, the only people we really have control over is ourselves. We can love and encourage, but there is never a good place for criticism. Criticism is negative. The positive opposite of criticism is love and encouragement simultaneous with respect for another’s individuality. Unattached admonition. And then let people choose their path. We offer help, reminders, and gentle pressure out of an energy of love. Not fear. So, we must…
1) Live our own lives. Make our own choices and let others the freedom to do the same.
2) Love ourselves and love others. Fill our souls with love we generate ourselves rather than extract from others.
3) Be diligent and selfless in our efforts to serve others. Remove our ego from the picture and put the full effort into encouraging through love.
4) Derive our sense of certainty from within. We must believe through thoroughly convincing ourselves that we are okay, we will be fine, and we will always have what it takes to survive and come through any event. When our solidarity comes from within, we don’t need to get the feeling of control and stability by attempting to live the lives of others.
If you remember nothing else, remember that people matter. Each one of us is deserving of respect and the dignity. We must trust that every individual has enough intelligence to make their own decisions and live their own lives.
Live and let live is a philosophy of love, respect, courage, and integrity.
CHALLENGE:
Ask yourself these questions:
-Are you trying to force or manipulate someone in your life?
-Are you trying to get someone to do something for the wrong reason?
-Do your “encouragements” come from a place of love or fear?
-How can you better embrace the principle of living and letting others live their lives free from your tyranny?
Remember, you deserve to live a happier, fuller life. Everyone can achieve this through embracing principles of happiness and fulfillment. This is one of those principles.
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